Divorces are ocurring principally as a consequence of the violation of human rights, this kind of cause is called legal cause.Some years ago, people used to permit the agresion, but now that is ilegal, divorces grow up as a consequence of demands. A person can get divorced by a demand in case of adultery, incurable illnesses, abandonment, or psicologic and physical aggression. For example, the agresion in couples just in Japan is in almost 20% of the population.
Another important cause of divorce is the psicologic cause, in this case, the couples decide to get devorced by mutual consent, as a result of the bad relation that they realized they was having, it can be due to lack of hygiene or good treat between each other, maybe when they don't want to share activities or expiriences, or just because they are not compatible. That's why 50% of the marriages in the industrialized countries finish in a divorce(1). Even when death should be the only thing that could separate a marriage.
There are a lot of causes that are reasons for getting divorced, it's not only because of demands and mutual consent, but also it's because another person interferes in the relationship, this person is colled lover,
A lover can make a person happy, but in most of cases it produces the separation of a marriage, because the person of the couple who falls in this mistake, sometimes wants to be with the lover, finishing the relation with his or her partner.A proof of this is a study(2) realized that showed that in Costa rica, aproximately 36% of the persons who divorce, get marry again.
The mentioned causes result in a divorce, it brings some effects too. If the couple has kids, they can suffer of depression, or antisocial behavior, and also if the partenr getdivorced because of violence, there are posibilities for that child to be violent too. Furthermore, if one of the partners is econimicaly dependent, she or he can suffer after the divorce; or in contrast, in other cases one of them may have to pay a pension to the other.
It's important to remember that a divorce is not a good thing, it can be the solution for so many problems, but the intention of a marriage is to be toghether forever.So, if you want to get marry thing in your decision a lot before make it, to avoid regrets that finish in a divorce, what brings a lot of consequences.
(1) Taked from the article"divorce and its approach",FLAPAG(Latin American Federation of Analytic Group Psychotherapy)
(2)Study realized by the Superior Cour of Family,Costa Rica
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ReplyDeleteI liked your essay a lot because I agree in many details that you mentioned. Like you I think that a divorce is not a good thing because it can affect psychologically the kids that the couple has, so I believe that before starting a divorce process the couple should take some psychological theraphies in order to prevent it. Finally I would say that it is important to think twice before getting married because a marriage should last forever.
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